Mentors on Mentees...

Who or what motivated you to become a mentor?


I wanted to be of help in the lives of others, but I just didn’t know where to start. I then came in contact with a relative of mine who told me about her experience as a mentor. She told me it was one of the best experiences of her life, because she felt like she concretely was able to help someone. I decided that I wanted to impact someone’s life for the better, as well so I too, became a mentor!

What is a typical mentoring session like?
It has varied for us over the years, but it started out with us sitting and chatting about what we have both done during the week and what the weekend had in store. Now our conversations are deeper and range from addressing problems in life,  discussing faith, family and friends.

Tell us something you have learned through your mentoring experience... What has surprised you about being a mentor?


What has surprised me is how much I have learned from him. His unique experience, has taught me not to take life for granted and has given me a new respect for individuals with a criminal background. Previously to this experience, I may have subconsciously judged the incarcerated population, but now I’m learning more about their unique challenges. In many ways, I think I had a subconscious culture shock. After spending time with my mentee, I learn more about his culture and try to help him in the ways that I can.  
I try to spend a lot of face time with my mentee because I see its importance considering, he never had a lot of family time growing up.

What do you think your mentee likes most about having you as a mentor?


Well I can’t speak for him, but I would say that my mentee likes that he has another male role model in his life that he can connect with.  We have conversations about his children; he always keeps me updated on how his job search is going. I think he likes being held accountable for his efforts, and I can encourage him when he needs it.

How does spending an hour a week with your mentee make a difference in his or her life? How has mentoring affected you personally/professionally?


He has a lousy support system at home, so it’s always good to be available for him when he calls or when he needs help. I remember having a neighbor when I was young who I felt like I could talk to about anything and not feel judged, that’s what mentoring is all about. It has helped me a lot professionally, understand different clients I may come in contact with. It personally has helped to alleviate some judgments on my part.